The Barnabas Ministry

Overcoming the Dark Side of Leadership
Inventory of Traits

The following inventory is intended to help you identify if you exhibit any Compulsive, Narcissistic, Paranoid, Codependent or Passive-Aggressive traits. Read each statement and select the items that corresponds closest to your impressions of yourself.

After answering all of the items, click the "Calculate Results" button at the end of the form.


 



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1. I often worry that my superiors do not approve of the quality of my work.
2. I am highly regimented in my daily personal routines such as exercise schedule or devotions.
3. When circumstances dictate that I must interrupt my daily personal routines, I find myself out of sorts and feeling guilty for having "skipped" a day.
4. I frequently find myself conscious of my status in relationship to others.
5. It is difficult for me to take an unplanned day off from work responsibilities just to goof around or spend time with friends and family.
6. While away from work, I still find myself thinking about work-related topics, often sitting down to write out my ideas in length even if it disrupts family activities.
7. I like to plan the details of my vacation so that I don't waste time.
8. I often explode in anger after being cut off or irritated while driving or over petty issues.
9. I am meticulous with my personal appearance, keeping shoes shined, clothes perfectly pressed, hair carefully cut and groomed, and fingernails always clipped.
10. I frequently comment about the long hours I keep and my heavy workload.
11. When others make sloppy errors or pay little attention to detail, I become annoyed and judge that person.
12. I am obsessive about the smallest errors, worrying that they will reflect poorly on me.
13. Fellow leaders in my church or organization frequently question whether my proposed goals and projects are feasible and realistic.
14. I am obsessed with knowing how others feel about my sermons, lessons and performance.
15. I find it difficult to receive criticism of any kind, reacting with anger, anxiety, or even depression when it does come.
16. At times I feel myself thinking, I'll show them; they could never make it without me, when I experience conflict situations or opposition to my proposed plans.
17. In spite of achieving what others would consider significant success, I still find myself dissatisfied and driven to achieve greater things in an effort to feel good about myself.
18. I am willing to bend rules and press the envelope of acceptable behavior to accomplish my goals.
19. I find myself feeling jealous of the success and achievements of associates, other churches, or organizations in my area.
20. I am often unaware of or unconcerned about the financial pressures my goals and projects place on those I lead or the church or organization I serve.
21. Success of failure in a project has a direct bearing on my self-image and sense of worth.
22. I am highly conscious of how colleagues and those to whom I am accountable regard my accomplishments.
23. I need to be recognized or "on top" when meeting with a group of fellow pastors, denominational officials, or associates.
24. I see myself as a nationally own figure at some time in the future or I have plans to attain such a position.
25. When I see two key church leaders discreetly talking in the lobby of the church, I worry that they may be talking about me.
26. It really bothers me to think about my church's board meeting without me being present.
27. When an associate receives rave reviews for a sermon or some special ministry, I experience intense feelings of jealousy rather than joy in the success and recognition he or she is receiving.
28. I require subordinates and associates to provide me with detailed reports of their activities.
29. I struggle when an associate, rather than me, is asked by church members to perform services such as weddings or funerals.
30. I have few intimate or meaningful relationships within my church or organizations and find myself avoiding such relationships.
31. I insist on absolute loyalty from those who work for me and prohibit staff from criticizing me in any way.
32. I often worry that there is a significant faction within my organization that would like to see me leave.
33. I have probed people for what they know or for special information they may relating to certain leaders in my organization.
34. Those I work with often complain about my lack of a healthy sense of humor.
35. I routinely refer to those I lead as "my people," "my board," or "my church" while bristling when the same designation is spoken by an associate.
36. I tend to take seriously even lighthearted comments and jokes directed at me.
37. I grew up in a family of one or more chemically dependent people (i.e. alcoholics, drug addicts, etc.).
38. I grew up in a strict, legalistic religious environment that held its members to an unrealistic standard of behavior and discouraged open communications about personal struggles and problems.
39. I am usually willing to put up with the bizarre or embarrassing behavior of others.
40. I often refrain from sharing my opinion in a group setting until I have heard the opinions of the others in the group.
41. I frequently worry about hurting people's feelings by sharing my true feelings.
42. I often feel responsible for problems I did not create.
43. I find it difficult to sleep because I worry about someone else's problems or behavior.
44. I find myself frequently overcommitted and feel my life is out of control.
45. I find it extremely difficult to say no to people even when I know that saying yes will result in difficulty for me or my family.
46. I constantly feel a sense of guilt but have difficulty identifying its source.
47. I feel like I never measure up to those around me and have self-deprecating thoughts.
48. When I receive compliments from others, I find it difficult to simply accept them without making qualifying statements.
49. I find myself resisting standards and procedures for formal review of my performance.
50. It is common for me to procrastinate on major projects.
51. I regularly resist others' ideas that could translate into increased performance and responsibility for myself.
52. I find myself consistently underperforming.
53. I experience periodic but regular outbursts of anger and frustration that are just within the bounds of what is considered acceptable behavior.
54. Occasionally I intentionally forget suggested projects.
55. Sometimes I give others the silent treatment as an expression of my anger.
56. I find myself telling others that nothing is bothering me when in reality I am seething.
57. I tend to be generally pessimistic and feel negative about my future.
58. Others have expressed to me that I make them feel uncomfortable.
59. Strategic planning and goal-setting are difficult for me.
60. Sometimes I catch myself trying to manipulate others in group settings by venting my anger and emotions when facing an initiative or idea I do not support.


 
 

Trait Rating Chart
Compulsive
Narcissistic
Paranoid
Codependent
Passive-Aggressive

If your total for any category comes to less than 20, you probably do not have that trait. If your total is between 21 and 40, there is a likelihood that you have some of these tendencies associated with that trait. If your total is 41 or more, you probably do have this trait. Of course, a short inventory of traits such as this cannot be a substitute for professional diagnosis and counseling. Please consult a licensed, professional counselor if necessary.

Taken from Overcoming the Dark Side of Leadership, by Gary L. McIntosh and Samuel D. Rima Jr.  Used by permission of Baker Books, a division of Baker Book House Company, copyright © 1997. All rights to this material are reserved. Materials are not be be distributed to other web locations for retrieval, published in other media, or mirrored at other sites without written permission from Baker Book House Company." Javascript and other portions Copyright © 2003 John Engler. All rights reserved.

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